On Being Positive Part 1



Watch out! How do you react to people with whom you carry unfavorable bias?

Examine your motives and reactions. The myopic tendency in allowing our baggage to be our compass in dealing with people is counterproductive. Unchecked, we may can be over critical. There is the danger of conveniently and unjustly associating with them the problems and difficult situations that surface at work. We may overlook the bigger picture. And, in the process, rather than finding solutions, we aggravate the situation: Tension builds up, relationships turn sour, communication breaks down, more problems surface.

Biases are created when we let our initial impressions of people stick, putting labels on people according to our perceptions.  Labels spawn from past experience or stories we hear about them. Valid or not, our biases may cloud our ability to assess a situation objectively.


The challenge for all of us is to be objective and constructive in dealing with situations. Here are some tips:


  • Handle the situation, devoid of emotions; isolate the issue/s.


  • Be open in hearing where the problem lies (not with whom. For all you know, the organization has been remiss in providing proper training and substantial system support, among others).


  • When problems arise, bear in mind that the objective is to resolve the issues and to learn from them.


  • When the task is done, acknowledge the people who have helped deliver positive outcome.



And, if indeed, the problem is personality based, be open to a private dialogue. Do not judge quickly.  Listen to others. They will be more open to corrections when their concerns are recognized – when you see them as individuals. Acknowledge their strengths as well as areas for their improvement.  Find solutions together. Give them opportunity to improve and provide them with the necessary support for improvement.

Be part of the solution. Be the positive energy in your organization! Turn everyone into a team player; including yourself. Positive energy begets positive output.  Finally, aim to make everyone work as a team in the achievement of goals.

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Sheila Viesca, TalkShop CEO and Director of Communication finished her bachelor degree in Literature, masters in Entrepreneurship, and doctorate in Applied Cosmic Anthropology. She designed the Philippines' Language Competency Benchmark for the Department of Education and pioneered Integrated Language Teaching (ILT) in workshop designs and corporate communication training. You can follow her on Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, LinkedIN, and Google+


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