Times May Have Changed but Right Conduct Does Not



Times have changed. The young are more assertive, more vocal. Hardly would you see young men offering their seat to women and the elderly. “Po and opo, mano po” are no longer observed in many homes. The access to the world through various media has influenced the way the young think, speak, and act. It gets to be very challenging for parents to instill more tradition and culture, good values and right conduct; challenging- but possible.


Ensure a good balance between their interaction with gadgets and their interaction with people, especially with family. Make room for quality and quantity time. Maximize the opportunity to have conversations and even banters (not sermons). A healthy exchange of communication will make them look forward to family time. Try being strict on these policies though: “Always together for dinner” and  “No gadgetwhenever the family is together.”When real-time communication is happening, family ties are well-connected, and parents become significant influencers to their children.


Ultimately, parents should remember that the best way to influence their children is to show good example.


Simple Reminders on Instilling Good Manners



1. Greetings Sets the Tone

  • Always have a friendly greeting for everyone. The first few seconds will set the mood for any conversation. Start the conversation with pleasantries like “Good morning. How are you? How was your day?” Genuinely listen and show interest. As much as possible, end conversations in a pleasant manner without sounding trite:e.g., “It was nice meeting you; Glad we had this opportunity…”
  • “Mano po” is a Filipino tradition that is good to keep. However, modern version of kissing the cheek of “Titas, Titos, Lolos, Lolas” with a greeting is acceptable.

2. Being PoliteSpeaks Volume

  • Make it a habit to say “Excuse me.  May I? Please? Thank you.”Applythese phrases when dining together,  i.e., as you reach for the dishes. Also extend the practice to other chores.
  • Always thank people for their efforts. When children see their parents doing this, and applying it even among subordinates, they will learn to see thatevery person deservesrespect and recognition for their efforts.


3. Kind Words Always Strike the Right Chord

  • As the saying goes, “if you have nothing good to say, don’t say it.” Impose “no bad words” policy at home so it becomes a habit. And, refrain from making jokes in a derogatory manner that could demean the value of people. Rather,
  • When there are provocations —No matter how rude the other person, strive to rise above the challenge and refrain from exchanging insults and profanities. Do not let emotions get the better of you.
  • Apologize when you hurt others.
  • Be generous with positive and pleasant words. Make it a habit to complement people


4. Respect and Courtesy Show Good Breeding

  • Gentlemen, open doors and offer your seat for female companions.
  • Respect the elderly. Offer seats and assistance  to the elderly
  • Observe personal space.Knock on closed doors.
  • Borrow and return things properly.Listen when a person speaks and do not butt-in.
  • Foodas grace must also be given reverence by observing proper etiquette. No elbows on the table. And yes, no gadgets. Have pleasant and tasteful conversations. One has to be clean and decently clothed before a meal.  Use proper utensils, including serving spoons and bowls. Food has to be chewed quietly and properly as food is to be savored.


How the youngsters behave is still a reflection of how they were raised. Media is not solely to blame for the young’s misbehaviour. Parents and guardians must lead them with proper etiquette and social graces.Being polite, courteous and proper are timeless values to preserve.


Times will continue changing. But tradition and culture, good values and right conduct – NOT. 



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Sheila Viesca, TalkShop CEO and Director of Communication, took up Bachelor of Arts in Literature, pursued Master's degrees in Entrepreneurship and Economics, and completed her Doctorate in Applied Cosmic Anthropology. She designed the Philippines' Language Competency Benchmark for the Department of Education and pioneered Integrated Language Teaching (ILT) in workshop designs and corporate communication training. You can follow her on Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, LinkedIN


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