What NOT to Do at a Formal Dinner

TalkShop formal dinner tipsOne gauge of a person’s breeding is how he behaves at a formal dinner. Formal affairs require fine table manners that can be acquired through training and experience. Sheila Viesca, TalkShop CEO says, “Refinement as shown in one’s conduct during formal dinners is a valuable edge in business. Knowing how to conduct oneself when hosting or attending such events puts a premium on an already polished personality. She shares tips on what NOT to do during these occasions:

1. Do not come dressed as you are. A formal occasion requires one to dress appropriately. Know the dress code and dress nicely.

2. Do not disregard R.S.V.P. Let your host know whether you are coming or not.

3. Do not be late. Advise your host what time you can be expected should this be unavoidable.

4. Do not lay out your cellphone, purse, and keys on the dining table.

5. Do not start eating ahead of everyone else. Wait for everyone to be served, and for the host to set his napkin on his lap.

6. Do not flap your napkin, nor use it as a bib or handkerchief. Set it half-folded on your lap, with the folded portion facing your waist.

7. Do not rearrange the utensils to use. The set-up corresponds to the number of courses to be served. Work your way in.

8. Do not be busy with your cellphone. Turn it off.

9. Do not eat not butter the entire roll at once. Break and butter a bite-sized piece.

10. Do not wolf down your dinner. Eat slowly.

11. Do not use your fingers for chicken, turkey, and pizza. This is done only in casual settings.

12. Do not break pasta into pieces. With a fork against the spoon, twirl a few strands at a time.

13. Do not pass the salt without the pepper. They always go together.

14. Do not reach across the table. Ask for item to be passed.

15. Do not set your napkin on the table when you leave the table. Place the napkin on your seat. When you are done eating, set it casually on the left side of your plate. Do not lay down utensils casually on your plate when you finish eating. These should be set at the 6:00 or 10:20 position.

A formal dinner is all about table courtesy and observing niceties to make the occasion enjoyable. TalkShop, a leading corporate training school in Makati also offers Social Graces & Fine Dining Etiquette through enjoyable, experiential learning for the total polish that impresses and endears.

www.talkshop.ph | (632) 894 5588 | “Etiquette & Social Graces”

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Sheila Viesca, TalkShop CEO and Director of Communication, took up Bachelor of Arts in Literature, pursued Master's degrees in Entrepreneurship and Economics, and completed her Doctorate in Applied Cosmic Anthropology. She designed the Philippines' Language Competency Benchmark for the Department of Education and pioneered Integrated Language Teaching (ILT) in workshop designs and corporate communication training. You can follow her on Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, LinkedIN


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